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I'm a true believer that a wedding can tell you volumes about a couple. It can tell you who their biggest friends are, what they value, the type of lifestyle they'll have together, and also their socioeconomic status. It also can be a great indicator of whether a marriage will last.
Over the years, there have been plenty of weddings that seemed to be the start of a complete disaster. The vast majority of those weddings end in divorce. These types of weddings make guests, planners, and even the betrothed uncomfortable.
A "disaster wedding" is the type of thing that should be cancelled before it's finished. Not sure if you should quit your wedding? Watch for the signs your marriage will not last.
The bride went bridezilla.
Bridezillas might be a fun show to watch, but it's not a fun show to live through. If you end up having a spouse-to-be that just starts degrading you, you really have to wonder why you're marrying this person.
If a person is so wrapped up in themselves that they forget to care for others, it's not a good sign.
Your in-laws are already meddling or getting hostile by the time wedding planning rolls around.
Woe is the fool who marries into a family that has toxic in-laws waiting for them. Around 1 out of every 10 divorces will cite a toxic in-law as a major contributing factor to the reason they file for divorce. Many more say that bad in-laws have made a seriously negative impact in their marriage.
Most of the time, in-laws will show their true faces before you are married. If they are starting to get aggressive with you before the wedding, you may want to put the marriage on hold.
Really, reconsider marrying this person. It's a bad sign and could suggest you'll end up talking to divorce lawyers sooner rather than later.
Your partner is totally unhelpful with wedding planning.
Does your partner seem uninterested in wedding planning, or even worse, combative? Does he act like “dead weight” when it comes to planning, even going so far as to refuse his moral support? If so, you might have a partner that doesn’t want to get married at all.
Wedding planning should be a team effort, ideally one that you both feel great about. If your spouse is being unsupportive or outright hostile to marriage, it’s a sign your marriage won’t last. After all, how can it last if your groom isn't interested in planning the wedding celebration in the first place?
There’s a lot of “secret planning” going on.
The only thing worse than a partner that doesn’t help plan your wedding is a spouse-to-be that plans your wedding behind your back, knowing that you won’t be happy with their decisions.
When this happens, it’s proof that your partner doesn’t care about your needs, and that means that your marriage won’t last. After all, a long marriage is one that will require open communication. If you're already sneaking around, that's not a good sign for you two in the long term.
Both the wedding planning and the wedding have started to feel like power struggles.
Bride versus mother-in-law. Groom versus bride. There's going to be a little bit of friction between in-laws and couples while you're planning stuff out, but that doesn't mean that it should be a daily occurrence.
A lot of professionals who work in the wedding industry have noted that couples who seem to be in the middle of a power struggle rarely ever make it to their five-year anniversary. We wonder why?
One spouse seriously disrespects the other during the wedding.
While a power struggle is never an indicator of a happy marriage, there's one symptom that is even worse. At this point, it's pretty obvious that one partner is being abused and is probably making the worst mistake of their life.
If open disrespect is happening during the wedding or leading up to it, there's very little chance that the wedding in question will lead up to a happy marriage. In fact, it's a serious red flag!
More than 20 percent of the wedding invitations were rejected.
Sometimes, the biggest sign your marriage won't last deals with how others handle it. Typically, people will be happy to attend a wedding because they want to see their friend or family member happy as they start a new chapter in their lives.
On the other hand, a high RSVP rejection rate tends to denote something far, far worse. This usually means that your friends don't approve of the person, or that you won't have a good support network. Both tend to suggest a far deeper problem with your relationship—even if you don't see it.
You and your spouse aren't on the same page when it comes to budgeting.
Money isn't romantic, but it's something you need to talk about when you're planning a wedding. Seeing how a couple makes do with the budget they have is really telling about the inner workings of their relationship and how they'll handle money at home.
There is a right way to plan a wedding on a budget. If both partners shy away from money talks or don't listen to one another when it comes to money, this is not good at all. They will likely break up because they can't handle money together as a team.
You don't really spend time together at the reception.
A common theme among couples is dealing with so much wedding stuff, they often will need a break just to hang out with friends. This is normal, but what isn't normal is when you see the bride and groom hanging out with their friends more than their spouse.
This red flag suggests that the marriage might only be for show, or that you might not actually be as comfortable as you'd hope.
Your wedding has a spouse that got totally wasted, or a major drama blowout has happened.
Weddings involving totally hammered spouses are always interesting to talk about. But, you don't want people to remember yours that way—and not just because it's embarrassing. It's also a sign your marriage will not last.
Think about what it says about your marriage. This is the time to actually show respect towards others, and show some reverence towards your spouse. If you can't go through with your wedding without guzzling a gallon of booze, you may need to reevaluate your life.